Guidance for Parents Seeking Support for Their Teenagers

Introduction

Convincing a teenager to attend therapy can be challenging. Adolescence is a time of asserting independence, and teens may be resistant to the idea of therapy for various reasons, such as stigma, fear, or a sense of privacy. However, with empathy, patience, and the right approach, you can help your teen see therapy as a valuable resource rather than a punishment or burden.

Understand Their Perspective

Start by listening to your teen’s feelings about therapy. They may have misconceptions or fear being judged. Let them express their thoughts without interruption or judgment. Validate their feelings and let them know that it’s normal to be hesitant about trying something new.

Open Honest Communication

Talk openly about why you think therapy could help. Share your concerns from a place of care, not criticism. Use “I” statements, such as “I’ve noticed you seem stressed lately, and I’m worried about you,” rather than “You need help.” This approach fosters trust and reduces defensiveness.

Educate About Therapy

Explain what therapy is and what it isn’t. Many teens fear therapy means something is “wrong” with them. Clarify that therapy is a tool for everyone, not just people in crisis. It can help with stress, relationships, school pressures, and self-understanding. If possible, share stories of people (even public figures) who have benefited from therapy.

Involve Them in the Decision

Give your teen some control over the process. Let them help choose the therapist or decide on the type of therapy (in-person, online, group, etc.). Ask if they would prefer talking to a male or female therapist, or someone of a particular background. Involving them in decisions can increase their buy-in.

Address Stigma and Privacy Concerns

Discuss any worries your teen has about stigma or privacy. Reassure them that therapy is confidential and that their sessions won’t be shared with others unless there is a safety concern. Normalize mental health support just as you would a doctor’s visit for physical health.

Be Patient and Supportive

Sometimes teens need time to warm up to the idea of therapy. Don’t push too hard or use ultimatums. Instead, regularly check in and remind them you’re there for support, regardless of their choice. If they refuse at first, let the subject rest and revisit it later.

Model Healthy Attitudes Toward Mental Health

Consider sharing your own experiences with counseling or stress, if appropriate. Show that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Demonstrating a positive attitude toward mental health can encourage your teen to follow suit. Also, some in-patient facilities offer a “camp” atmosphere making it easier to get them the help they need. 

Offer Alternatives if Needed

Balanced Mind Counseling has therapy that uses video games to help make the experience more comfortable for teens. We also offer Equine therapy for kids and teens that resonate with the outdoors. Equine therapy has been known to loosen up even the most resistant folks in therapy. 

Seek Professional Advice

If you’re struggling to support your teen, consider consulting a mental health professional yourself for strategies. They can provide guidance tailored to your family’s situation and help address any barriers specific to your teen.